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Help Tony and Stacey try one more time for a little petri dish miracle of their own.

Dear friends, family and others that may read this.

As some of you aware, in the hope to have a baby, we are going to be trying IVF (In vitro fertilization) for the second, and probably final time. This is really the last chance to help bring a child of our own into our family.

To give you a little brief background, Tony and I have been married for almost 10 years. After about the first five years, we finally got up the courage to see a fertility doctor. The tests were inconclusive. In the years that followed I researched what our options were, and came to the conclusion that IVF was the only answer. For me that was a bit of a blow, because I knew how much IVF would cost, and that insurance rarely covered anything to do with fertility. I started to try and get used to the idea that we would be a family of two. We doted on our nieces and nephews when given the chance, indulging in the roles of Uncle Tony and Auntie Stacey, and we adopted a beautiful chocolate Beagle named Mr. Eko, who promptly became our baby. He has shown us a glimpse of what it would be like to have the love of child. I thought this was the end of our journey to parenthood, and I told myself I was ok with that.

Then last year I took a job with a company that offered fertility treatment coverage. This is VERY VERY rare. For us, the cost of IVF was going to be substantially less than most, only around $3000, instead of the US average of $20,000. We were convinced it was a sign and were able to scrape up the money for our first round of IVF. The initial IVF transfer and the next FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer) did not take. They don’t know why, but figure stress was high on the list. (There has been a job loss and rapidly declining health of a family member.) In May we transferred our last two embryos, and finally had a positive pregnancy test. But it was immediately clear to the doctors that this was a chemical pregnancy, one that would result in a miscarriage.

So now we are back to square one. I was asked the day I found out about the miscarriage, when I would stop. When would I say I have had enough? I don’t know for sure, but I can tell you I am not ready to give up. I know I am supposed to be doing this, even when disappointment after disappointment places a new barrier in front of me. I might cry for a day, but I will get up the next and figure out how to knock that wall down. I feel like there is a little soul out there rooting for us, and when I feel like giving in to self pity and doubt, I feel this little voice fading. I don’t know if the child I want will come to me in the way I want it to, but I can’t give up yet.

The last barrier that we need to pass is the financial barrier. From the start of this process, I have felt a keen sense of urgency. I didn’t want to wait a month or a day. I felt a knowledge that I had a limited window. With Tony out of work now, I know why. He could get a job any day, and from what we have seen that will probably mean moving out of Arizona, and losing that amazing insurance coverage. We would like to try to do the cycle in August. We don't have years to save that kind of money. So we are sucking up our pride, and asking for help.

They say it takes a village to raise a child. Why not to create one?

We would be eternally grateful if you could make a contribution to help us secure the IVF treatment. Do you sell Pampered Chef, Mary Kay or have a store on Etsy? Could you host a party on our behalf, and donate some of the proceeds? Could you have a bake sale at your work, or do you have a jar of change you don't need? Even the smallest amount will help us reach our goal.

However, I know things are so very hard for so many people in the current economy so I also understand if it’s not possible. If you can’t donate, please help by spreading the word about this fundraiser. Post it to your Facebook account or your blog. You never know who you know that might be able to help us.

We appreciate all the thoughts and prayers on our behalf.

Stacey and Tony Palizzi

You can also visit us on our facebook page at!/LifesAPetriDish
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