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Steve and I both need a new beginning - this time as individuals instead of as a married couple. Funds raised will help pay for our divorce.

No one gets married thinking their marriage will end in anything but "until death do you part." Unfortunately it doesn't always work out that way, and in our case, I don't think our marriage should've ever happened.

There is a lot of the story missing here, and there's a good reason for that. While there's details I may be willing to share, that doesn't mean that my husband would be comfortable having me share them. Despite the bitterness between us, I have enough respect for him and the memory of the years we shared to keep some things off the public forum.

Steve and I first met in seventh grade art class, and after eyeing each other from across the room, we finally managed to start talking and exchange phone numbers. We spent nine months “going out” in middle school, but by high school, we’d gone our separate ways. As we graduated from high school in 1996, I was preparing to go to college while Steve was raising his newborn son.

We met up again at a mutual friend's birthday party in 2002. We walked me home and kissed me goodnight. The next day he came over to check in on me and wound up staying the night.

We moved in together in April of 2003, got engaged in April of 2006, and were married on 12 July 2006. It was a small, backyard ceremony - simple and sweet. We still did the "big white wedding" the next year because I was afraid if we didn't, I'd regret not doing it when we had the chance in years to come.

It turns out we were living in separate worlds, both with unrealistic and unhealthy expectations. I'd asked him to go to counseling time and time again, each time being turned down. By the time I knew I needed to leave, Steve finally wanted to go. I had nothing left. and had already "checked out" emotionally. I simply couldn't stay and it would not have been fair to him for me to pretend I could.

I moved out of our home in July of 2010 and moved to Missouri the following month. We haven't seen one another since then. My son was born in March of 2011, and I am currently a stay-at-home-mom with no income.

We both need a new beginning. Our marriage is emotionally over - there is no love left on either side. However, without having the legalities severed as well, we cannot find closure. We need to be able to divorce and move on with our lives.

The first lawyer I talked to asked for a $2000 retainer. I've been trying to look into legal assistance, but the only thing I've found thus far only helps if the marriage was abusive. A bad marriage doesn't mean it was abusive.

Please help us find our fresh start and our new beginning by ending our marriage. All monies raised will go towards legal expenses.

Thank you for your generosity.

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