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Please assist Bobby's family with daily living expenses as the 26-year recovering alcoholic battles terminal lung cancer.

My father, Bobby Nipper, is one of the toughest cookies I have ever met. Just the other night I told him that he has had more lives than five cats. The stories of his life could fill a book…and might actually do so in the future. He is 68 years old and on April 21, 2012, while in a hospital bed in my home, some local AA members presented him with a 26 year sobriety coin. Quite a mighty and proud accomplishment, yet it was a moment of mixed emotions.

Over three years earlier my dad was diagnosed with thyroid problems that left him weighing 82 pounds and hospitalized. This resulted in his thyroid being removed and his being placed on a feeding tube. After being released from the hospital he went home and worked to regain his strength. He managed to gain back up to around 125 lbs and was continuing to pursue his passion – Alcoholics’ Anonymous work. Unfortunately, in February of this year he was diagnosed with end-stage non-small cell carcinoma – lung cancer. They gave him 12 months with treatment and 3 months without. Despite his frailty, my father being the fighter that he is, told the doctors to bring on the treatment. He wanted to fight. After only two chemo treatments and half his radiation treatments the doctors stopped everything and placed him on hospice. The treatments were making him weaker.

I am an administrative assistant for Camellia Home Health & Hospice and when his doctors suggested placing him into a hospice facility to die, my husband and I did not hesitate to go to Jackson, MS and bring him to our home in Collins, MS. I had no idea what I was taking on but was following my heart. It has not been easy. We have good days and bad days but he has thrived so much better being in a home environment around his family. Just over a week ago we were told that he was down to his last 24 hours yet the next day he made a turnaround What I did not forsee was the expense of having someone come into the home to sit with him while I worked. I ended up taking FMLA to be his primary caregiver. In doing so, I have lost pay and will soon be forced to pay the high price of COBRA so that I do not lose insurance coverage for myself and my husband. Our utility and grocery bills are mounting as we slowly slip behind on everything else.

There is a part of this whole thing that I would not change….the time that I have with my dad. We have been given the blessing of having these last days to discuss matters that existed before he became sober at the age of 42. We are forgiving and making peace. We are finding understanding and healing. Our entire family is healing. Not a lot of victims of alcoholic fathers and spouses have the beauty of the relationship we are all developing during this time.

Please help us find relief from the financial stress that builds daily around us and taints the beauty of my dad’s final days. Any gifts and donations will be appreciated.

If you would like to contact us personally you can do so at cindydharvey@yahoo.com or you can write us at Bobby Nipper in care of Cynthia Thurman, 131 Joe Miller Lane, Collins, MS 39428.

Thank you in advance from the bottom of our broken hearts.

Cynthia and Todd Thurman

Bobby Joe Nipper

Darlene Poore, Charlene McMillan, Deborah Craven (my sisters)

Patricia Sampley (my mother)

Larry Nipper (my dad’s brother)
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