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We are asking our friends and family to please help us in raising money to undergo IVF in order to have a sibling for Molly.

As many of you may know, Matt and I had to undergo IVF in order to have our first child, Molly. After trying to conceive naturally and going through 7 failed IUI attempts, our doctors told us IVF was our only option. Thankfully, our first round of IVF was a success, and in August of 2011 we welcomed Molly Madeline White.

There is no way to describe the joy Molly has brought to our lives, as many of you parents out there can understand. There is also no way to truly explain the difficulty and stress of undergoing IVF, unless you have also had to go this route. When Matt and I got married in 2007, we were excited about what the future would hold for us. We wanted to spend a few years traveling and building our careers before having children. Being a teacher, I thought, "I will get pregnant in the fall, have the baby in early summer, and then be off the rest of the summer before having to go back to work. How perfect!" Little did I know that getting pregnant does not just magically happen according to your own schedule.

After realizing that there must be a problem, we went to the doctor. Without going into too many specifics, Matt and I were never going to have a baby on our own. Never. Nada. Nothing. I know what you're thinking, "Just relax, it will happen when it should!" Trust me, it wasn't going to. Ever. You really can't imagine how that conversation with the doctor went. Gut-wrenching. Tears. Yelling. Lost. My hard working, honest husband and I (also, hard working and honest, and pretty funny to boot!), were just told devastating news. Where do you go from there? How do you move on?

The very next day, I contacted all of the fertility clinics in our area and set up appointments to see what our options were. Within a few months, things were looking up for us. We were all set to undergo intrauterine insemination (IUI), with the assistance of some donor materials. :) We were so excited! The doctors were completely confident that this would work...sooner rather than later, and I had nothing but optimism filling me inside. Well, the first IUI didn't work. After a day or so of tears, we were back at it and ready for Round 2...Round 3...Round 4....Round 5....Round 6....Round 7....... Devastated. Lost. More tears. We thought that the worst day of our lives was when the doctor told us we would never be able to naturally have a child, but no, that was not the worst day. The worst days repeated themselves over and over again each month that we got our hopes up after our IUI, only for those hopes to come crashing down two weeks later when that b*thchy Aunt Flo would come.

So, here we are thousands of dollars later, poked and prodded from too many needles, and still no baby. How is this fair? I always pick up litter when I see it on the ground. My husband is the most honest and genuine person in the world. We both have Master's degrees for goodness sakes. Why can't we have a baby!? After consulting with the doctors (again), we decided that our only option was IVF. After a few more tests and hundreds of syringes and medicines ordered, we were ready to start IVF in the Fall of 2010. Even though nothing had worked before, both Matt and I never gave up hope that we would get the opportunity to have a beautiful baby of our own.

I had to have several injections every day for two weeks, blood tests more often that I would wish upon an enemy, and ultrasounds to monitor the development of follicles. After an egg retreival, ICSI, and a few days of waiting, two embryos were transferred. Now all we had to do was wait. Again. 10 days later a blood test confirmed that I was pregnant. Wow. Finally. But wait, "You will come back in 2 days for another blood test to confirm that you are actually pregnant, and not just chemically pregnant." Oh, good lord! More waiting?! I've been waiting for this day for as long as I can remember, so I suppose I can make it two more days. Matt and I had become pretty much experts on waiting. So, wait we did. And guess what? We were pregnant! Well, I was pregnant! As far as I can remember, Matt never gained 40 pounds and had a foot kicking his rib for weeks at a time. :) To make a long story short, we were able to have our first child.

Molly is now a strong-willed, silly, 16 month old who deserves the chance to be a big sister. Many people may say, "Aren't you being greedy? You already have your baby, why do you need another?" I'm hoping that you really don't need me to explain how my husband and I wanting more than one child is not greedy, but just in case, I can explain a little. It is not greedy for Matt and I to want more than one child because we are as much entitled to having children just as anyone else is. We will care for our children, clothe our children, feed them, send them to great schools, encourage them to be whatever they want to be (within reason, right? haha), and love them unconditionally. We want our daughter to have a brother or a sister who she can play with, wrestle with, tattle on, learn with, and grow with. It is not greedy or selfish, it is a basic human desire that we cannot make a reality without a little help.

Please consider donating any amount, big or small, to our fund. No one deserves to have to go through infertility, and you certainly shouldn't be punished for it because insurance does not cover ANY costs. We appreciate anything you can do to help us, and Molly, add to our family.
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